communication is key

Talk to your partner pre-sexy time about what you want.

Offer lots of appreciation and reassurance about your current sex life. Make it clear that you love the sex life and intimacy you share together now. Let your partner know that this is not about them or your sex life being inadequate. Adding sex toys are really about making things even better, and exploring something new together.

Your timing for this conversation is important. Make sure you have sufficient time and privacy – and if they’re not in the mood to talk about it, allow them the option of talking at another time.

Share your reasons for wanting to introduce toys in a clear and positive way. You can try something like:

“I’ve been thinking that it might be exciting to experiment with a vibrator. I’m wondering if this is something you would be open to?

You can also try something like, “I heard about a new website selling sex toys the other day. I thought that trying something like that might be really fun for us. Would you be interested in that too?”

Openly listen to your partner’s feelings and opinions about it too.

explore together & take it slow

If you’re excited too, together, look at sex toys you might like to experiment with. Jointly shopping for the right toy to use can be a beautiful way to deepen your intimacy and connection. Crack open a bottle of wine and open up our site, while discussing the toys that you like the look of and those you might be unsure about. Start with a toy that you both feel comfortable with and that can be easily incorporated into your current love making. It might be an aromatic massage oil to start, or one of our toys designed specifically for couples. Take it easy, and have fun exploring either way! Below are some of my recommended couples products.