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Masturbation

Why Masturbation is Great For Your Sex Life

It seems there are a few damaging myths surrounding masturbation that need to be cleared up. The first myth is ‘If my partner masturbates, it means our sex life is inadequate’ and the second myth is ‘Masturbating means I won’t want sex with my partner because I will be ‘orgasmed out’.’ News flash; both of these myths are not true, in fact masturbation is a healthy and normal part of life and is a positive addition to any romantic relationship.

Self-love and self-care are an essential part of life, and masturbation is just that; a form of self-love and self-pleasure. Masturbation is sex with yourself and begins in utero. Yes, that’s right, we begin touching and pleasuring our genitals when we are in our mother’s womb!

Masturbation is essential because it gives us an opportunity to explore our own body and discover what truly turns us on. We learn how we like to be touched and pleasured and can then share that valuable knowledge with our sexual partners. After all, if we can’t pleasure ourselves, how can we expect our partners to know how to pleasure us?

If you are one of those people who have an issue with your partner self-pleasuring, it’s time to get over yourself. Honour your partner for taking the time out for self-love and self-pleasure. Your partner’s body is theirs, notyours, and they have every right to find pleasure within their own body. Masturbation can be in fact be a very sacred practice and is to be encouraged and respected.

If you think you will be ‘orgasmed’ out by ‘too much’ masturbation (therefore not wanting to have sex with your partner later on), think again. The more sex you have, the more sex you want. So, if you’re having sex with your self (aka masturbation), you’re allowing the sexual juices to flow and it’s a good indication that your mojo is healthy!

Regular masturbation is just as healthy and essential as regular partner sex. It’s time to let go of the negative stuff that surrounds masturbation when in relationship and instead foster the belief in our culture that it’s completely normal, healthy and natural.

Written By Sexologist Juliet Allen

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Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Sex Coach and Writer.  She has a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner which we love. Juliet is passionate about empowering women to embrace their true sexual nature and encourages everyone to explore and own their sexuality. Juliet Allen Website


female masturbation

Female Masturbation

Female masturbation, why is this still considered taboo? It seems that men are allowed to talk about masturbating from day dot but most women don’t feel comfortable to discuss it amongst good friends. Female masturbation is a must! Sexual pleasure should belong to the individual before it is shared.

Firstly, a bit of time studying our anatomy. See picture above.

A few friendly female masturbation tips to get you started:

Give it time – no pressure

Relax! That is part of the process. Don’t focus on the orgasm, enjoy all the pleasure you are feeling from the beginning of your session right through to the end. Practice makes perfect. You’ve got time on your side, you’re vulva isn’t going anywhere. Worship that body of yours!

Massage your entire body

Like doing exercise ‘warm up’ first. Get some organic massage oil and massage your whole body focusing particularly on your breasts, neck, buttocks and inner thighs. You’re essentially waking up your body. Try to turn off your mind and focus on the sensations. When you’re ready begin massaging your vulva (coconut oil lube is great for that). Don’t focus straight on your clit. Awaken the whole area which leads to my next point.

Sometime indirect is best

This is the definition of foreplay. Circle around the clit. Stroke your outer lips. Lightly touch your inner lips initiating desire. You want your body to be screaming out telling you to move those fingers inside your vagina towards your g-spot. Play, caress, indulge and enjoy.

Play out your wildest fantasy

Erotic fantasy. If you don’t have one, find one! Start reading some female focused erotica. Watch a favourite movie that always gets you a bit excited (e.g. Dirty Dancing) and imagine yourself in the lead role. Another fun activity is to grab a piece of paper, sit somewhere you feel happy and start writing. You’ll be surprised how easy it is and where you’ll end up.

When you have some inspiration ‘use it’ in your practice. Lose yourself in your desires. And do not under any circumstances feel guilty about it.

Here’s a link to an erotic fiction written by MOJOCO – Sex Getaway.

Vibration is call for sensation

Ok ok, so we sell vibrators but there is a reason for that. They’re fabulous! If you have never felt the sensation of vibration on your clit or g-spot get excited.

Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes with a motor that is true to its name as it produces vibrations. Most have an assortment of settings that vary the vibration speed and pattern as well as what part of the toy is active.

Remember play first and move towards direct stimulation.

For clitoral stimulation.

For g-spot stimulation.

For dual stimulation.

Check out our MOJOCO’S quality adult toy standards

For more great info on masturbation please read our blog written by Sexologist Juliet Allen on ‘Why Masturbation Is Good For Your Sex Life’ and ‘Mutual Masturbation