Mutual masturbation is when two people masturbate in each other’s presence. Perhaps you are both positioned on opposite sides of the room, or you’re alongside each other kissing, or you’re on opposite sides of the world, watching and listening via a screen. It doesn’t matter how you choose to do it, what matters is that you experience and embrace mutual masturbation as a regular practice with your lover/s.

Mutual masturbation can be a huge turn on for all people involved (because let’s face it, there can always be more than two people involved, if you’re into that). Here’s a few tips on how to make it the hottest experience possible:

Firstly, make sure everyone involved loves solo masturbation

To be completely comfortable with mutual masturbation, you must first be super comfortable with solo self-pleasure. Practice self-pleasure alone until you are really comfortable and at ease with your own body and touch. This will ensure you are 100% comfortable being watched, plus you’ll be more comfortable watching your lover/s get all hot and heavy with themselves.

Set boundaries

Perhaps all your lover wants tonight is mutual masturbation. So, communicate prior if you want to leave it at just that. Mutual masturbation is often a good compromise if you’re not up for partner sex, or if you’re tired and just want to self-pleasure and got to sleep. Be open and honest with your lover and respect each other’s wishes and desires.

Take the focus off orgasm and into pure self-pleasure

We often get caught up in goal-oriented masturbation (masturbating to reach climax). Slow it right now, enjoy every single little touch and make love to yourself just how you want your lover to make love to you. It’s amazing what can happen when we slow down and let go of having to have a ‘release’.

Incorporate Pussy & Cock Massage

Make sure you have organic coconut oil handy, pour some into your hands and lather it all over you. Give yourself an intimate loving massage and enjoy being watched. Massage is a beautiful intimate self-pleasure practice that gives us the opportunity to relax into our own touch and pleasure.

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About Juliet

Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Sex Coach and Writer.  She has a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner which we love. Juliet is passionate about empowering women to embrace their true sexual nature and encourages everyone to explore and own their sexuality. Juliet Allen Website