Wellbeing

self-pleasure

Erotica - Exploration & self-pleasure with my Pretty in Pink Pack

I am at home alone today with my Mojoco Pretty in Pink Pack. It feels strange to be dedicating time to self-pleasure but also something I really feeI I need. It has been ages since I’ve had a decent orgasm. I want the release but more than that I want to connect with myself.

While the bath is running I stand naked in front of the mirror. The glow of the candle light is kind to my shape. I decided to play a game with myself. Instead of focusing on my flaws, I look for the things I love about my body. Initially I find this process challenging but it becomes easier. The length of my neck, my belly button, my mouth…The more I acknowledge, the more I find to appreciate.

I sprinkle some of my new Mojoco organic massage oil into the water. The scent is delicious. As I drop my body into the warm water I instantly relax. After a while soaking I want to touch my body. Firstly I give my shoulders a rub and then I move my hands towards my nipples circling with the tips of my fingers until they go hard. I can feel my body livening up to the sensations. I place my hand on my vulva softly stroking myself. I know I can come quickly if I try but that’s not what this is about. I  stay in the bath for another 5 minutes building the tension.

I dry off and place my soft new cotton robe on my warm naked body. My bed is awaiting me and so is my WeVibe Tango! Relaxed yet feeling the adrenaline of arousal I turn on my toy. I buzz my nipples and around the entrance of my vagina. Now my clitoris and I scream out in pleasure. I slide the tango into my vagina pinpointing my g-spot while I massage my clit with the other hand. I’m on the edge. Determined for more I remove both my hands and wait breathing. After 5 breaths I go again. Repeating the process until I can’t wait any longer……Heaven! Now I think I might enjoy a little snooze.


kegel balls

What are Kegel Balls?

Let’s start with your kegel muscle (pubococcygeneus). You know that feeling when you really need to wee and you are holding on like mad. The kegel muscle is what is stopping you from urinating. Both men and women have kegel muscles but in this instance we are focusing on women. As we get older, have babies etc this muscle weakens and like every other muscle in our bodies we have to work to look after it, kegel balls help you to do this.

Listed below are some of the benefits of keeping your kegel muscle strong:

Sex first!

  • Increased sensitivity leading to more intense sexual arousal
  • Helps you reach an orgasm faster
  • Helps heighten sexual pleasure for both the female & male
  • Can even cause an erection of the clitoris (mmmm this sounds interesting we’ll get back to you with a blog on this topic)
  • And all of this will no doubt increase your SEX DRIVE

Other health benefits:

  • Improved control of your bladder
  • Helps make childbirth and recovery easier

The coolest thing about kegel balls is that they don’t require much effort. Once inserted your muscles do the work involuntarily. You are therefore exercising at your desk, or while cooking dinner or at the shops if you’re feeling daring.

Tip: If you’ve had a big session with your kegels you may want to allocate some special time in the day for self-pleasure or sex. They do tend to get the juices flowing.

Little fact: Kegel balls have been around since c.500AD.


female masturbation

Female Masturbation

Female masturbation, why is this still considered taboo? It seems that men are allowed to talk about masturbating from day dot but most women don’t feel comfortable to discuss it amongst good friends. Female masturbation is a must! Sexual pleasure should belong to the individual before it is shared.

Firstly, a bit of time studying our anatomy. See picture above.

A few friendly female masturbation tips to get you started:

Give it time – no pressure

Relax! That is part of the process. Don’t focus on the orgasm, enjoy all the pleasure you are feeling from the beginning of your session right through to the end. Practice makes perfect. You’ve got time on your side, you’re vulva isn’t going anywhere. Worship that body of yours!

Massage your entire body

Like doing exercise ‘warm up’ first. Get some organic massage oil and massage your whole body focusing particularly on your breasts, neck, buttocks and inner thighs. You’re essentially waking up your body. Try to turn off your mind and focus on the sensations. When you’re ready begin massaging your vulva (coconut oil lube is great for that). Don’t focus straight on your clit. Awaken the whole area which leads to my next point.

Sometime indirect is best

This is the definition of foreplay. Circle around the clit. Stroke your outer lips. Lightly touch your inner lips initiating desire. You want your body to be screaming out telling you to move those fingers inside your vagina towards your g-spot. Play, caress, indulge and enjoy.

Play out your wildest fantasy

Erotic fantasy. If you don’t have one, find one! Start reading some female focused erotica. Watch a favourite movie that always gets you a bit excited (e.g. Dirty Dancing) and imagine yourself in the lead role. Another fun activity is to grab a piece of paper, sit somewhere you feel happy and start writing. You’ll be surprised how easy it is and where you’ll end up.

When you have some inspiration ‘use it’ in your practice. Lose yourself in your desires. And do not under any circumstances feel guilty about it.

Here’s a link to an erotic fiction written by MOJOCO – Sex Getaway.

Vibration is call for sensation

Ok ok, so we sell vibrators but there is a reason for that. They’re fabulous! If you have never felt the sensation of vibration on your clit or g-spot get excited.

Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes with a motor that is true to its name as it produces vibrations. Most have an assortment of settings that vary the vibration speed and pattern as well as what part of the toy is active.

Remember play first and move towards direct stimulation.

For clitoral stimulation.

For g-spot stimulation.

For dual stimulation.

Check out our MOJOCO’S quality adult toy standards

For more great info on masturbation please read our blog written by Sexologist Juliet Allen on ‘Why Masturbation Is Good For Your Sex Life’ and ‘Mutual Masturbation


Women's sexual wellbeing

Sexual Wellbeing. Why Is It Important?

Sexual Wellbeing – Why is it important?

 

We often think to ourselves, ‘I should exercise more, eat healthily, meditate, get a massage’ but what about allocating time for our sexual wellbeing? It is so often pushed to the back of the ‘to do’ list or not even on it to begin with.

 

The way we feel about and experience sex is deeply connected to our core energy. It can affect our relationships, mood, sleep and stress levels.

 

Sex and self-pleasure releases the following hormones:
Prolactin – responsible for many things including deep relaxation and sleepiness and has been linked to reduced risk of breast and prostate cancer.
Oxytocin – known as the love hormone also contributes to relaxation and reduced stress and anxiety.
Endorphins – a natural pain reliever.
Immunoglobulin A and DHEA hormone – boost immunity and great for the skin.

 

They sound good right? Here are some tips to help you get started on your personal exploration.

 

Look after your pelvic floor – Kegel Balls
Strengthening your pelvic floor leads to increased sensation, better orgasms and improved bladder control. Having regular sex and orgasms will help but you should also look at getting yourself some kegel balls. These are small shaped weights that you insert into your vagina like a tampon.

 

They are often sold in a progressive set so as your muscles strengthen you can move up. They feel quite discrete and your muscles will contract involuntarily to do the work for you.  They can be worn at home or work, basically anywhere. Quite fun to have a performance review with your boss while working on the intensity of your orgasms…

 

Make sex important  

 

Yes, that’s right. It’s a priority! Living with bad or non-existent sex can make us quite frankly pretty cranky (not enough of that Oxytocin as we mentioned earlier). This involves communication first. Get out those diaries and make a date. If you’re in a relationship with your partner and if you’re not, with yourself.

 

So now that you’ve got a date think about what sex means to you. Do you always enjoy it? Do you struggle to orgasm? Has your libido altered recently? These are important issues to be addressed and not to be marked as unimportant. Education is key. For starters there are loads of fantastic books out there and if you still feel lost, consider booking in to see a Sexologist. It sounds a bit daunting but why not? You’ve got nothing to lose.

 

Get sensual 

 

Sex and sensuality is such a beautiful combination. Remember sex is what you make it and it doesn’t have to end with penetration or orgasm. It is an opportunity to connect with your body.  Get naked and run silk across you body. Massage each other from tip to tail and see where it leads. Enjoy engaging in the senses. Close your eyes and touch yourself feeling the sensation of skin against skin.

 

A superfood for sex

 

Macca – have you heard of it? This was only recently brought to our attention, incredible! Increases your libido and has also been known to help men with erectile problems. Check it out at your local health food store.

 

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Woman in lingerie

How To Keep Your Mojo Alive On A Daily Basis

 

It’s the silent epidemic that most of will suffer from at some stage in our lives; loss of our mojo (aka sex drive). It’s a killer, especially when we are head over heels in love with our partner, and yet something in our mind and body clicks, and all-of-a-sudden we are literally sexless.

 

So, how do we keep our mojo alive on a daily basis? Well to be honest I think it’s completely normal and natural not to want sex every day, but I also think it’s not too big an ask to want to at least feel sexual daily (even if we don’t engage in the actual physical sex). Here’s a few simple ways you can do that:

 

Embrace your sexuality & deal with shame and guilt

 

We all carry shame and guilt surrounding our sexuality and drive for sex … but it’s now time to face the stuff that gets in the way of you feeling sexually empowered. This may mean heading to a sexuality coach or therapist, or chatting to your friends about how you are feeling. Shame and guilt can have a huge effect on the way we view sex and the depth to which we enjoy sex with our partner. It’s time to dive deep into your internal world and let go of limiting belief systems that you’ve possibly been carrying since childhood.

 

Look after your physical and mental health

 

If you’re feeling overweight and sluggish the last thing you’ll feel like doing is engaging in sex. Eat clean, this means choosing fresh fruit and vegetables, drinking plenty of water, avoiding excessive drinking and substances and exercising at least five times a week. Take care of your body and your appearance! Our mental health and physical health is intertwined, so make sure you’re looking after your mental health by talking about how you are feeling and not pushing down emotion.

 

Prioritise Sex

 

So many of us live busy lives and use the ‘busy’ excuse not to have sex. I don’t care how busy you are, sex has to be your priority and it’s so vital for connection when you’re in a committed relationship. Stop using the ‘busy’ excuse and make time for your lover!

 

Eat Maca

 

Maca is my secret superfood sex weapon! Known as ‘nature’s viagra’ this powerful root from the Amazon magically increases libido and vaginal lubrication. It’s also known to help men with erectile challenges. Buy Maca capsules or powder from your local health food store.

 

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About Juliet

Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Sex Coach and Writer.  She has a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner which we love. Juliet is passionate about empowering women to embrace their true sexual nature and encourages everyone to explore and own their sexuality. Juliet Allen Website


Woman experiencing an orgasm

What To Do When You Can’t Have An Orgasm - Isiah McKimmie

Orgasms are awesome! Except when we’re not having them. Then orgasms are frustrating and disappointing.

 

It’s likely we would all want better sex and more orgasms if we thought it was possible.

 

So what can you do if you’re not able to reach orgasm on a regular basis - or even at all?

 

First, let’s look at some stats. It might seem like you’re the only one in the world not having orgasmic sex, but it’s important to know that you’re not alone.

 

  • 30% of women struggle to reach orgasm on a regular basis.
  • 10% of sexually active women have never had an orgasm at all.

 

If we believe popular culture and porn, we get the impression that women orgasm quickly, easily and loudly.

 

But this just isn’t true.

 

Orgasms for women can be more complicated that we’re led to believe and there are a number of things that can impact our ability to have an orgasm.

 

 Here are some of the most common reasons women fail to reach orgasm:

 

      • Not enough time spent in foreplay
      • Subconscious negative beliefs around sex
      • Lack of good sex education
      • Poor sexual communication
      • Underlying relationship challenges
      • Being tired or stressed
      • Prescribed medications or alcohol

 

It’s important to know that just because you’ve never had an orgasm, it doesn’t mean you never will.

 

We can all learn to have orgasms more frequently, reliably and enjoyably. We often just need the right information and a bit of guidance.

 

Of course, sex doesn’t need to end in orgasm to be enjoyable, satisfying and loving, but I’m sure we’d all like to experience sex climaxing to orgasm sometimes.

 

Here are some things to try when you can’t or struggle to reach orgasm

 

1. Shift your Mindset

 

Examine any underlying beliefs you might have about sex and your right to enjoy it that may have been influenced by your family, culture or religion.

 

Remind yourself that you DESERVE to enjoy yourself.

 

2. Get good sex education

 

Educate yourself on how women’s bodies function sexually. There is a lot to learn and often we aren’t taught effectively or we miss out on important information.

 

Develop realistic ideas of what orgasm ‘should’ or will feel like - orgasms feel different to everyone and can sometimes be small. Women orgasm in a variety of different ways.

 

3. Learn what you like 

 

Take your time exploring what feels good for you. Everybody is different.

 

Try to let go of the focus on orgasm and instead just focus on pleasure. It’s about the journey, not the destination.

 

Remember to let you partner know what you enjoy too. Communication really is key when it comes to having great sex.

 

4. Take your time

 

It takes women’s bodies time to fully prepare for sex. When you are having sex, make sure you’re spending at least 15 minutes in foreplay to increase your chances of reaching orgasm.

 

5. Experiment with toys 

 

Vibrators can be a great help in learning to orgasm - or having an orgasm with a partner more often.

 

I regularly direct my clients to Mojoco toys to try out in combination with the work we’re doing in coaching.

 

A clitoral vibrator like Je Joue Mimi used during penetration sex with a partner is a great way to increase the likelihood of reaching orgasm.

 

6. Get support

 

Relationship Coaching and Sex Therapy has been shown to be 90% effective in helping women reach orgasm for the first time. If you are struggling to reach orgasm on a regular basis, a therapist or coach can help you work through hurdles and give you practical tips for moving forward.

 

A struggle to reach orgasm really can bring you and your partner closer together as you explore, experiment, and communicate with each other.

 

resized-bio-imageIsiah McKimmie

Isiah is a Relationship Therapist, Sexologist and Tantra Teacher passionate about helping women and couples embrace wholehearted sexuality and ignite deeper intimacy in their lives. Isiah offer Sex and Relationship Coaching in Sydney and via Skype. Visit her website to find out more and download her free ebook for couples.

Isiah McKimmie Website

 


Vagina tips for women

4 Hot Tips On How To Have A Happy Vagina

A healthy and happy vagina makes a world of difference to the happiness of women in their every day life. There’s nothing worse than feeling irritated and sore, and so it’s vital that we know how to look after our vagina and vulva so that it’s in optimum health. Here’s four simple ways you can maintain a happy vagina every single day:

 

1. Only select natural products if you’re going to put them anywhere near your vagina and vulva

 

I’m talking about skin care products (such as body wash), body moisturiser, massage oil, lubricant, and even clothes washing liquid. Any product that you use that goes anywhere near your vulva and vagina can have a huge impact on your health. Many women complain of feeling irritated and yet, when they begin using organic soap-free body wash, the irritation clears within days.

 

Some Mojoco options:

Organic Lubricant

Organic Intimate Cleanser

Organic Massage Oil

 

2. Treat your vulva and vagina like a sacred temple 

 

Only put things inside and around your vagina that you respect and adore. This includes penis’s, sex toys, vegetables, fingers, tongues, and anything else that ends up in your vagina. Seriously, really have a think before you allow anything inside you and your sacred space. Your vagina is like a temple and a temple is a place of worship and beauty.

 

3. Get regular sexual health checkups and pap smears

 

Lots of us put off sexual health checks and pap smears because we find it awkward and uncomfortable. The fact is, if you leave your sexual health and don’t have regular check ups, you may end up with an STI that affects your fertility, or abnormal cells on your cervix that leave you with cancer later in life. DO NOT leave your sexual health check up at the bottom of the to-do list! Make a booking today to get yourself checked and take responsibility for your health and wellbeing.

 

4. Give yourself a vulva/yoni massage

 

Seriously, take time out to give yourself a massage. I recommend using organic coconut oil to massage your entire vulva … coconut oil is safe to use internally too and is an amazing lubricant! Nourishing our vulva with touch is a wonderful gift to self and a beautiful self-pleasure ritual.

 

 

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About Juliet

Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Sex Coach and Writer.  She has a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner which we love. Juliet is passionate about empowering women to embrace their true sexual nature and encourages everyone to explore and own their sexuality. Juliet Allen Website


Men's sexual health

Who Would Have Thought All Males Are So Sensitive?

Summarised by MOJOCO from Ian Kerner’s Passionista

 

Most of us, Men included, consider the male sexual organs to be limited to the penis head and shaft but there’s so much more to know and involve!

 

The head/glans is the focus of most bloke’s masturbation but it’s these bad habits of racing to orgasm that’s a leading contributor of premature ejaculation being 3 times more prevalent in males than erectile disorder. Women also often don’t appreciate the sensitivity of this region, especially after orgasm or the early stages of arousal, which is equivalent to their clitoris. The fellatio complaints of men are not dissimilar to those of women, along the lines of too rough, too fast, too much focus on the head etc.

 

Both sexes therefore have much to learn about all parts of the male sexual organs to truly unlock all the potential, including the:

 

  • Glans: from the ridge of the corona to the underside of the frenulum (which many men co
    nsider their “sexual sweet spot”) the glans is the most physically sensitive part of the male body;
  • Foreskin: in uncircumcised men can play a key role in stimulation for both him and her. It’s filled with sensitive receptors that turn him on and when retracted makes a wider ridge that some women refer to as a “G spot stimulator”;penis-2
  • Shaft: consists of three cylindrical spheres of soft tissue – the two larger spheres make up the corpus cavernosum which rapidly fills with blood during erection, held there by a system of valves until ejaculation;
  • Scrotum: the left side typically hangs lower than the right as descends first during birth. Both testicles are contracted in when cold and during sex for protection;
  • Perineum: between the scrotum and anus is filled with nerve ending and erectile tissue that swells with blood during arousal;
  • Anus:the entrance, like the perineum is full of sensitive nerve endings;
  • Prostate gland: a walnut sized gland below the urinary bladder that produces the white sticky fluid which forms most of the volume of semen. Also referred to as the male g spot can be stimulated through anal touch or massaging of the perineum;
  • Buttocks, gluteus and abdominal muscles: often tight with tension.

 

A combination of physiological and psychological factors results in the male compulsion to protect or guard the entire pelvic region. By opening up and engaging the entity of this pleasure zone you can enjoy a heightened “out of body” sexual and sensual experienced.

 

To learn all about what really turns men on keep reading Passionista – The empowered Women’s guide to Pleasuring a Man.


She Comes First book review

Jack's Book Review – She Comes First by Ian Kerner

She Comes First is a book every heterosexual adult male needs to read. Most women still have so much to learn of their anatomy so it's no surprise us blokes have no idea - or in Ian’s words we’re “ill-cliterate".

 

Backed by great science yet written in a clever, witty and easy-to-read way this is a cover-to-cover gem that you'll be wanting to hand on to every bloke you know and care for, including your son and even Dad if that’s not too weird.

 

Renowned sex therapist and author Ian Kerner spells out what on reflection seems so clear - oral sex isn't just foreplay but coreplay. It’s simply the best way to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again whilst also prolonging one's own ecstasy - leading to such better orgasms for you both.

 

Includes a step-by-step guide and diagrams to ensure your partner always comes first. Brilliant. My (and now my wife's!) favourite book of all time. Enough said.


Sex Positive

Everyone likes the sound of the words “sex positive”…but what do they actually mean?

 

In summary, sex positive is a non-judgmental movement that celebrates all consensual sexual activities learn the facts here now.

 

It’s about having a positive attitude about sex…seeing sex as healthy and enjoyable.

 

Sex positive people are comfortable with their own sexual identity and with the sexual behaviour of others. They see sexual pleasure and experimentation as good things in life and are comfortable discussing sex.

 

Learning more about safe sex and your body’s capabilities are all part of the sex positive movement. It is also sometimes linked to feminism because women are empowered and have the freedom to choose what’s best for them.

 

Whenever sex positive is discussed, words like uplifting, elevating, invigorating, inspiring, liberating are mentioned. So while there may be some conflicting opinions surrounding the subject, we like it and aim to create a sex positive culture at MOJOCO.

 

Jack and Sal

 

 


Female G Spot

Where Is My Special Spot? The Female G-spot

Do you like clitoral, female g-spot (vaginal) or both types of stimulation? First things first you need to know where these special spots are. View above diagram to help you begin your quest in discovering your body. Say hello to your vulva (yes, not vagina, that is just a section of it).

I want to make special note of the female g-spot. Not always easy to find but it's time to try. Relax, sit back, and get in there. Don't be ashamed. It's your body. Love all of it.

Getting connected to your vulva is part of the parcel of getting into your sexuality and in essence having better sex.