4 ways to increase the intensity of your orgasm - Isiah McKimmie

In the words of Isiah McKimmie - Sexologist

I have to be honest and say that sex was never really bad for me.

I’m lucky that I orgasm relatively easily - and I think my penchant for older men meant I chose lovers who had a pretty good idea of what they were doing.

That being said, I always felt like there might  be more to explore

My orgasms were good, but I wanted to know if they could be great. Put it this way - I hadn’t had any of Meg Ryan’s ‘When Harry Met Sally’ moments of off-the-charts pleasure.

So when I first ‘discovered’ Tantra, it was like finding the key to Pandora’s box.

There really was more and ‘great’ orgasms really did exist!

Through Tantra, I learnt about whole body orgasms, orgasms that last for 15 minutes and that Tantrikas (people who practice Tantra) can have orgasms without even touching each other.

Always the diligent student, I threw myself into exploring this new world.

Although I don’t always have - or want - whole body orgasms, or sex for hours on end, Tantra provides some pretty impressive tools for increasing intensity and enhancing the enjoyment of sex.

So, without further ado - here are 4 ways to intensify your orgasm tonight.

1. Increase the time you spend in foreplay

The most common reason women fail or struggle to reach orgasm is that we don’t spend enough time in foreplay.

Women’s bodies go through complex changes in order to prepare for sex and these changes take time. Women require at least 15 minutes of foreplay for their bodies to be fully ready for penetration sex.

Before we have sex, the complex networks of erectile tissue in our vulvas need to fill with blood and become engorged. As this happens, our sensitivity, and therefore our ability to feel pleasure, increases.

Spending adequate time in foreplay will not only increase the likelihood of you having an orgasm, it will increase the intensity of that orgasm. This is true for both men and women.

2. Try Edging

If you haven’t heard of edging yet, it’s the ancient secret of Tantric Sex, that’s taking the internet by storm.

Essentially, in edging, you move towards orgasm, but as you get close, rather than going over the edge, you back off, before building up again and repeating the cycle.

By prolonging our pleasure, we also increase the intensity of the orgasm when we do orgasm.

Tantra practice teaches robust, in-depth techniques for this, however, you can start by backing off and taking some deep breaths as you come close to orgasm. 

Try approaching orgasm 3-4 times before allowing yourself to go fully over the edge.

As you back off and build up sexual energy builds, leading to a more intense, powerful orgasm when it does happen.

3. Breathe Deeply

The depth of our breath is directly related to our ability to feel. When the breath is shallow, and the body is tense and tight, we don’t feel as much as when we are relaxed and breathing deeply.

Deep breathing also calms our minds and slows our thoughts. Many women find it difficult to ‘switch off’ and be in the moment during sex. They often find themselves listing all the things they still have to do in their heads. Sound familiar?

Try engaging in deep breathing as you begin sex. This should help to bring you into your body and into the moment - so you can focus on pleasure and enjoyment.

In addition, as we approach orgasm, the breath often becomes shallow and we can even hold our breath completely. Instead, try to focus on taking deep breaths helping to relax the body. In turn, increasing the intensity in your orgasm.

4. Sound

Sound is energy. And sex is all about energy.

Often, we learn to have sex quietly (out of embarrassment or simple consideration for our neighbours) but when we’re holding back sound, we’re also holding back the flow of energy - and therefore pleasure.

Did you know that sound is a key factor in male multiple orgasm, taught through Tantra?

I’m not suggesting being fake or inauthentic with your moans and groans. I’m talking about letting out the sounds that are pure and authentic for you.

Next time you’re being pleasured by your partner, show your appreciation through your sounds of enjoyment and encouragement. Start as small or as quiet as you need and gradually explore what your authentic sounds are. Practice making these sounds to build your confidence and to allow yourself to embrace them.

We’re biologically wired to be turned on by the sounds of sex, so hearing moans of pleasure can heighten the turn on of both you and your partner.

Isiah McKimmie is a Couples Therapist, Sex Therapist, Sexologist + Coach who has been helping women and couples discover deeper intimacy and desire for over a decade.  Compassionate, understanding and absolutely non-judgemental, she’s built her reputation on getting results and helping her clients live happier lives.

International Women’s Day - Reflection

International Women’s Day - Reflection

Free to choose yet fragile in a world we have created. Alone it can be all consuming but together we are unstoppable.

On a day like to day it feels important to reflect on what it means to be a women. Below is a recent story that I think encompasses for me life as a women, good and bad.

A few days ago I had intense heartburn. Never had it before. It persisted and I thought perhaps I was pregnant. I’m on the pill but you hear stories of the unexpected third child navigating its way under all odds. Not pregnant. Went to the Doctor, nothing of note wrong. I woke up the next day and had this urge to cry and so I did uncontrollably for a while and with that my heartburn completely disappeared.

I will admit I’ve been under a bit of pressure - an unwell parent, running a business, two small children and a husband with an injured foot. This is just my life at the moment but I know we are all coping with our own stories. I try to departmentalise, be less emotional, commit to less but it’s never that simple. Part of it is me but part of it is being a woman and having the innate desire to control everything in a very whole-body way. 

On my crying day I thought what can I do today to pull myself out of this. The only thing I felt could bring me up was to see a good friend. Thankfully she was available and going to a yoga class. I thought I will go too….It’s been several years since I’ve gone to a yoga class. It was a rainy day and the class was situated at the top of a surf club overlooking the ocean. Not bad! I think I could have just lay in the room full of women for an hour and absorbed the energy and it would have been enough. I felt with each breath I was filling my body with strength again.

My dear friend felt my need for her and let me take over her day with cups of tea and a leisurely lunch. We were like naughty school girls wagging our responsibilities for the day. She was my rock but I knew the day was important for her too. We both needed the unexplainable light a good friendship brings.

Mojoco goes bush (pun intended…)

I’ve just come back from taking Mojoco on an outback adventure. I was asked to attend an event called ‘Country Channel Ladies Day’ organised by an incredible group of women who live in rural Queensland. The slogan for the weekend is ‘inspiration in isolation’ and what an inspiration the event is. The purpose of the event is to provide women in western QLD the opportunity to connect socially with other women, discuss issues associated with living in isolated areas, form friendships, increase emotional wellbeing and experience new things that would otherwise be hard, if not impossible, to source locally. 

I travelled on a 12-person charter flight with much of the entertainment for the weekend onboard. Before we landed I already felt connected to the wonderful group of talented people joining me on this experience. All of us were in some form of nervous excited anticipation, bonded by our proximity and our joint goal to provide a mix of education, entertainment and fun. 

First impressions

Arriving on the airstrip in Jundah (a small rural community in the middle of QLD) we were greeted by three jovial women in 4WD’s. We were given a tour of the town that took about 3 minutes and headed to the racetrack where the event was being held. Although I was brought up in a small rural town in NSW the vast flat red dirt landscape was very new to me and the feeling that you were a long way from anywhere was both unnerving and exhilarating. 

A large marquee was set up alongside the racetrack shed and that was the main facility for the weekend. There were long lines of tents that were our beds for the weekend and, I must note, a very fancy amenities block. 

I could write endlessly about every segment of the weekend as there is so much to tell but let me focus back to what I was there for - to chat female pleasure and share why I believe it’s so important, plus give women a chance to purchase some Mojoco goodies. The 'pleasure store' was open at night time. On Friday night I set up all the products I managed to bring with me on the plane on a single table, got myself a wine and just as I went to sit down the first person arrived for a chat. From that moment on I didn’t get a chance to sit down as more and more women came past. I was overwhelmed by the response and loved everyone’s enthusiasm, openness and excitement. A lot of women expressed interest in coming to my workshop the next day and everyone was so welcoming that it helped calm my nerves.

Time to talk female pleasure!

My largest audience yet! A round table with an array of sex toys set up on the red dirt with about 30 smiling faces aged 25 to 75. Time to begin…an overwhelming feeling of women supporting women. My nerves dropped almost instantly as I told my story to a room full of women who enjoy a good yarn and exude empathy and understanding. There was lots of curiosity, eyes that tell-all and plenty of laughs and giggles. That night when I opened up my one table shop I was inundated with women. 

The wrap up

One of the main takeaways for me is that we as women experience many of the same things even though our lifestyles may be very different. This is true across the board but of course I will relate it to our sexuality. We all drift sexually from our partners over time for whatever reason. We all have felt shame or guilt at some point about our sexuality. Sex, orgasms or general self-pleasure is something we all ponder about and have interest in. Sharing my very ‘normal’ story with this amazing group of country women made me feel even more passionate about the importance of sharing the message that it’s ok to nurture your sexual wellbeing. In fact its more than ok, it’s very important to who we are. 

As I stepped off the plane and said my goodbyes to a beautiful group of people I felt grateful to have been part of something so special. Despite my exhausted body as I jumped into the car I had a burst of energy and let out a loud ‘yee ha’!

Thank you to the ladies of the Channel Country!

I also wanted to make special mention of two ladies that supported and inspired me through the weekend.

Ellen Briggs - An equally fabulous women as she is comedian. Currently touring a show call Women Like Us. Get to a show near you and like the Facebook Page for some classic content.

Taryn Brumfitt - A kind, caring women with an empowering message. Founder of the Body Image Movement Taryn is all about positive body image. Through her story she is teaching women the value of loving their bodies including might I add our lovely vulvas! If you haven’t seen the movie Embrace get yourself a copy today. 


Erotica - Exploration & self-pleasure with my Pretty in Pink Pack

I am at home alone today with my Mojoco Pretty in Pink Pack. It feels strange to be dedicating time to self-pleasure but also something I really feeI I need. It has been ages since I’ve had a decent orgasm. I want the release but more than that I want to connect with myself.

While the bath is running I stand naked in front of the mirror. The glow of the candle light is kind to my shape. I decided to play a game with myself. Instead of focusing on my flaws, I look for the things I love about my body. Initially I find this process challenging but it becomes easier. The length of my neck, my belly button, my mouth…The more I acknowledge, the more I find to appreciate.

I sprinkle some of my new Mojoco organic massage oil into the water. The scent is delicious. As I drop my body into the warm water I instantly relax. After a while soaking I want to touch my body. Firstly I give my shoulders a rub and then I move my hands towards my nipples circling with the tips of my fingers until they go hard. I can feel my body livening up to the sensations. I place my hand on my vulva softly stroking myself. I know I can come quickly if I try but that’s not what this is about. I  stay in the bath for another 5 minutes building the tension.

I dry off and place my soft new cotton robe on my warm naked body. My bed is awaiting me and so is my WeVibe Tango! Relaxed yet feeling the adrenaline of arousal I turn on my toy. I buzz my nipples and around the entrance of my vagina. Now my clitoris and I scream out in pleasure. I slide the tango into my vagina pinpointing my g-spot while I massage my clit with the other hand. I’m on the edge. Determined for more I remove both my hands and wait breathing. After 5 breaths I go again. Repeating the process until I can’t wait any longer……Heaven! Now I think I might enjoy a little snooze.

kegel balls

What are Kegel Balls?

Let’s start with your kegel muscle (pubococcygeneus). You know that feeling when you really need to wee and you are holding on like mad. The kegel muscle is what is stopping you from urinating. Both men and women have kegel muscles but in this instance we are focusing on women. As we get older, have babies etc this muscle weakens and like every other muscle in our bodies we have to work to look after it, kegel balls help you to do this.

Listed below are some of the benefits of keeping your kegel muscle strong:

Sex first!

  • Increased sensitivity leading to more intense sexual arousal
  • Helps you reach an orgasm faster
  • Helps heighten sexual pleasure for both the female & male
  • Can even cause an erection of the clitoris (mmmm this sounds interesting we’ll get back to you with a blog on this topic)
  • And all of this will no doubt increase your SEX DRIVE

Other health benefits:

  • Improved control of your bladder
  • Helps make childbirth and recovery easier

The coolest thing about kegel balls is that they don’t require much effort. Once inserted your muscles do the work involuntarily. You are therefore exercising at your desk, or while cooking dinner or at the shops if you’re feeling daring.

Tip: If you’ve had a big session with your kegels you may want to allocate some special time in the day for self-pleasure or sex. They do tend to get the juices flowing.

Little fact: Kegel balls have been around since c.500AD.

female masturbation

Female Masturbation

Female masturbation, why is this still considered taboo? It seems that men are allowed to talk about masturbating from day dot but most women don’t feel comfortable to discuss it amongst good friends. Female masturbation is a must! Sexual pleasure should belong to the individual before it is shared.

Firstly, a bit of time studying our anatomy. See picture above.

A few friendly female masturbation tips to get you started:

Give it time – no pressure

Relax! That is part of the process. Don’t focus on the orgasm, enjoy all the pleasure you are feeling from the beginning of your session right through to the end. Practice makes perfect. You’ve got time on your side, you’re vulva isn’t going anywhere. Worship that body of yours!

Massage your entire body

Like doing exercise ‘warm up’ first. Get some organic massage oil and massage your whole body focusing particularly on your breasts, neck, buttocks and inner thighs. You’re essentially waking up your body. Try to turn off your mind and focus on the sensations. When you’re ready begin massaging your vulva (coconut oil lube is great for that). Don’t focus straight on your clit. Awaken the whole area which leads to my next point.

Sometime indirect is best

This is the definition of foreplay. Circle around the clit. Stroke your outer lips. Lightly touch your inner lips initiating desire. You want your body to be screaming out telling you to move those fingers inside your vagina towards your g-spot. Play, caress, indulge and enjoy.

Play out your wildest fantasy

Erotic fantasy. If you don’t have one, find one! Start reading some female focused erotica. Watch a favourite movie that always gets you a bit excited (e.g. Dirty Dancing) and imagine yourself in the lead role. Another fun activity is to grab a piece of paper, sit somewhere you feel happy and start writing. You’ll be surprised how easy it is and where you’ll end up.

When you have some inspiration ‘use it’ in your practice. Lose yourself in your desires. And do not under any circumstances feel guilty about it.

Here’s a link to an erotic fiction written by MOJOCO – Sex Getaway.

Vibration is call for sensation

Ok ok, so we sell vibrators but there is a reason for that. They’re fabulous! If you have never felt the sensation of vibration on your clit or g-spot get excited.

Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes with a motor that is true to its name as it produces vibrations. Most have an assortment of settings that vary the vibration speed and pattern as well as what part of the toy is active.

Remember play first and move towards direct stimulation.

For clitoral stimulation.

For g-spot stimulation.

For dual stimulation.

Check out our MOJOCO’S quality adult toy standards

For more great info on masturbation please read our blog written by Sexologist Juliet Allen on ‘Why Masturbation Is Good For Your Sex Life’ and ‘Mutual Masturbation

Women's sexual wellbeing

Sexual Wellbeing. Why Is It Important?

Sexual Wellbeing – Why is it important?


We often think to ourselves, ‘I should exercise more, eat healthily, meditate, get a massage’ but what about allocating time for our sexual wellbeing? It is so often pushed to the back of the ‘to do’ list or not even on it to begin with.


The way we feel about and experience sex is deeply connected to our core energy. It can affect our relationships, mood, sleep and stress levels.


Sex and self-pleasure releases the following hormones:
Prolactin – responsible for many things including deep relaxation and sleepiness and has been linked to reduced risk of breast and prostate cancer.
Oxytocin – known as the love hormone also contributes to relaxation and reduced stress and anxiety.
Endorphins – a natural pain reliever.
Immunoglobulin A and DHEA hormone – boost immunity and great for the skin.


They sound good right? Here are some tips to help you get started on your personal exploration.


Look after your pelvic floor – Kegel Balls
Strengthening your pelvic floor leads to increased sensation, better orgasms and improved bladder control. Having regular sex and orgasms will help but you should also look at getting yourself some kegel balls. These are small shaped weights that you insert into your vagina like a tampon.


They are often sold in a progressive set so as your muscles strengthen you can move up. They feel quite discrete and your muscles will contract involuntarily to do the work for you.  They can be worn at home or work, basically anywhere. Quite fun to have a performance review with your boss while working on the intensity of your orgasms…


Make sex important  


Yes, that’s right. It’s a priority! Living with bad or non-existent sex can make us quite frankly pretty cranky (not enough of that Oxytocin as we mentioned earlier). This involves communication first. Get out those diaries and make a date. If you’re in a relationship with your partner and if you’re not, with yourself.


So now that you’ve got a date think about what sex means to you. Do you always enjoy it? Do you struggle to orgasm? Has your libido altered recently? These are important issues to be addressed and not to be marked as unimportant. Education is key. For starters there are loads of fantastic books out there and if you still feel lost, consider booking in to see a Sexologist. It sounds a bit daunting but why not? You’ve got nothing to lose.


Get sensual 


Sex and sensuality is such a beautiful combination. Remember sex is what you make it and it doesn’t have to end with penetration or orgasm. It is an opportunity to connect with your body.  Get naked and run silk across you body. Massage each other from tip to tail and see where it leads. Enjoy engaging in the senses. Close your eyes and touch yourself feeling the sensation of skin against skin.


A superfood for sex


Macca – have you heard of it? This was only recently brought to our attention, incredible! Increases your libido and has also been known to help men with erectile problems. Check it out at your local health food store.


Check Out What’s New on Mojoco

Woman in lingerie

How To Keep Your Mojo Alive On A Daily Basis


It’s the silent epidemic that most of will suffer from at some stage in our lives; loss of our mojo (aka sex drive). It’s a killer, especially when we are head over heels in love with our partner, and yet something in our mind and body clicks, and all-of-a-sudden we are literally sexless.


So, how do we keep our mojo alive on a daily basis? Well to be honest I think it’s completely normal and natural not to want sex every day, but I also think it’s not too big an ask to want to at least feel sexual daily (even if we don’t engage in the actual physical sex). Here’s a few simple ways you can do that:


Embrace your sexuality & deal with shame and guilt


We all carry shame and guilt surrounding our sexuality and drive for sex … but it’s now time to face the stuff that gets in the way of you feeling sexually empowered. This may mean heading to a sexuality coach or therapist, or chatting to your friends about how you are feeling. Shame and guilt can have a huge effect on the way we view sex and the depth to which we enjoy sex with our partner. It’s time to dive deep into your internal world and let go of limiting belief systems that you’ve possibly been carrying since childhood.


Look after your physical and mental health


If you’re feeling overweight and sluggish the last thing you’ll feel like doing is engaging in sex. Eat clean, this means choosing fresh fruit and vegetables, drinking plenty of water, avoiding excessive drinking and substances and exercising at least five times a week. Take care of your body and your appearance! Our mental health and physical health is intertwined, so make sure you’re looking after your mental health by talking about how you are feeling and not pushing down emotion.


Prioritise Sex


So many of us live busy lives and use the ‘busy’ excuse not to have sex. I don’t care how busy you are, sex has to be your priority and it’s so vital for connection when you’re in a committed relationship. Stop using the ‘busy’ excuse and make time for your lover!


Eat Maca


Maca is my secret superfood sex weapon! Known as ‘nature’s viagra’ this powerful root from the Amazon magically increases libido and vaginal lubrication. It’s also known to help men with erectile challenges. Buy Maca capsules or powder from your local health food store.



About Juliet

Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Sex Coach and Writer.  She has a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner which we love. Juliet is passionate about empowering women to embrace their true sexual nature and encourages everyone to explore and own their sexuality. Juliet Allen Website

Woman experiencing an orgasm

What To Do When You Can’t Have An Orgasm - Isiah McKimmie

Orgasms are awesome! Except when we’re not having them. Then orgasms are frustrating and disappointing.


It’s likely we would all want better sex and more orgasms if we thought it was possible.


So what can you do if you’re not able to reach orgasm on a regular basis - or even at all?


First, let’s look at some stats. It might seem like you’re the only one in the world not having orgasmic sex, but it’s important to know that you’re not alone.


  • 30% of women struggle to reach orgasm on a regular basis.
  • 10% of sexually active women have never had an orgasm at all.


If we believe popular culture and porn, we get the impression that women orgasm quickly, easily and loudly.


But this just isn’t true.


Orgasms for women can be more complicated that we’re led to believe and there are a number of things that can impact our ability to have an orgasm.


 Here are some of the most common reasons women fail to reach orgasm:


      • Not enough time spent in foreplay
      • Subconscious negative beliefs around sex
      • Lack of good sex education
      • Poor sexual communication
      • Underlying relationship challenges
      • Being tired or stressed
      • Prescribed medications or alcohol


It’s important to know that just because you’ve never had an orgasm, it doesn’t mean you never will.


We can all learn to have orgasms more frequently, reliably and enjoyably. We often just need the right information and a bit of guidance.


Of course, sex doesn’t need to end in orgasm to be enjoyable, satisfying and loving, but I’m sure we’d all like to experience sex climaxing to orgasm sometimes.


Here are some things to try when you can’t or struggle to reach orgasm


1. Shift your Mindset


Examine any underlying beliefs you might have about sex and your right to enjoy it that may have been influenced by your family, culture or religion.


Remind yourself that you DESERVE to enjoy yourself.


2. Get good sex education


Educate yourself on how women’s bodies function sexually. There is a lot to learn and often we aren’t taught effectively or we miss out on important information.


Develop realistic ideas of what orgasm ‘should’ or will feel like - orgasms feel different to everyone and can sometimes be small. Women orgasm in a variety of different ways.


3. Learn what you like 


Take your time exploring what feels good for you. Everybody is different.


Try to let go of the focus on orgasm and instead just focus on pleasure. It’s about the journey, not the destination.


Remember to let you partner know what you enjoy too. Communication really is key when it comes to having great sex.


4. Take your time


It takes women’s bodies time to fully prepare for sex. When you are having sex, make sure you’re spending at least 15 minutes in foreplay to increase your chances of reaching orgasm.


5. Experiment with toys 


Vibrators can be a great help in learning to orgasm - or having an orgasm with a partner more often.


I regularly direct my clients to Mojoco toys to try out in combination with the work we’re doing in coaching.


A clitoral vibrator like Je Joue Mimi used during penetration sex with a partner is a great way to increase the likelihood of reaching orgasm.


6. Get support


Relationship Coaching and Sex Therapy has been shown to be 90% effective in helping women reach orgasm for the first time. If you are struggling to reach orgasm on a regular basis, a therapist or coach can help you work through hurdles and give you practical tips for moving forward.


A struggle to reach orgasm really can bring you and your partner closer together as you explore, experiment, and communicate with each other.


resized-bio-imageIsiah McKimmie

Isiah is a Relationship Therapist, Sexologist and Tantra Teacher passionate about helping women and couples embrace wholehearted sexuality and ignite deeper intimacy in their lives. Isiah offer Sex and Relationship Coaching in Sydney and via Skype. Visit her website to find out more and download her free ebook for couples.

Isiah McKimmie Website


Vagina tips for women

4 Hot Tips On How To Have A Happy Vagina

A healthy and happy vagina makes a world of difference to the happiness of women in their every day life. There’s nothing worse than feeling irritated and sore, and so it’s vital that we know how to look after our vagina and vulva so that it’s in optimum health. Here’s four simple ways you can maintain a happy vagina every single day:


1. Only select natural products if you’re going to put them anywhere near your vagina and vulva


I’m talking about skin care products (such as body wash), body moisturiser, massage oil, lubricant, and even clothes washing liquid. Any product that you use that goes anywhere near your vulva and vagina can have a huge impact on your health. Many women complain of feeling irritated and yet, when they begin using organic soap-free body wash, the irritation clears within days.


Some Mojoco options:

Organic Lubricant

Organic Intimate Cleanser

Organic Massage Oil


2. Treat your vulva and vagina like a sacred temple 


Only put things inside and around your vagina that you respect and adore. This includes penis’s, sex toys, vegetables, fingers, tongues, and anything else that ends up in your vagina. Seriously, really have a think before you allow anything inside you and your sacred space. Your vagina is like a temple and a temple is a place of worship and beauty.


3. Get regular sexual health checkups and pap smears


Lots of us put off sexual health checks and pap smears because we find it awkward and uncomfortable. The fact is, if you leave your sexual health and don’t have regular check ups, you may end up with an STI that affects your fertility, or abnormal cells on your cervix that leave you with cancer later in life. DO NOT leave your sexual health check up at the bottom of the to-do list! Make a booking today to get yourself checked and take responsibility for your health and wellbeing.


4. Give yourself a vulva/yoni massage


Seriously, take time out to give yourself a massage. I recommend using organic coconut oil to massage your entire vulva … coconut oil is safe to use internally too and is an amazing lubricant! Nourishing our vulva with touch is a wonderful gift to self and a beautiful self-pleasure ritual.



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About Juliet

Juliet Allen is a Sexologist, Sex Coach and Writer.  She has a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner which we love. Juliet is passionate about empowering women to embrace their true sexual nature and encourages everyone to explore and own their sexuality. Juliet Allen Website

Men's sexual health

Who Would Have Thought All Males Are So Sensitive?

Summarised by MOJOCO from Ian Kerner’s Passionista


Most of us, Men included, consider the male sexual organs to be limited to the penis head and shaft but there’s so much more to know and involve!


The head/glans is the focus of most bloke’s masturbation but it’s these bad habits of racing to orgasm that’s a leading contributor of premature ejaculation being 3 times more prevalent in males than erectile disorder. Women also often don’t appreciate the sensitivity of this region, especially after orgasm or the early stages of arousal, which is equivalent to their clitoris. The fellatio complaints of men are not dissimilar to those of women, along the lines of too rough, too fast, too much focus on the head etc.


Both sexes therefore have much to learn about all parts of the male sexual organs to truly unlock all the potential, including the:


  • Glans: from the ridge of the corona to the underside of the frenulum (which many men co
    nsider their “sexual sweet spot”) the glans is the most physically sensitive part of the male body;
  • Foreskin: in uncircumcised men can play a key role in stimulation for both him and her. It’s filled with sensitive receptors that turn him on and when retracted makes a wider ridge that some women refer to as a “G spot stimulator”;penis-2
  • Shaft: consists of three cylindrical spheres of soft tissue – the two larger spheres make up the corpus cavernosum which rapidly fills with blood during erection, held there by a system of valves until ejaculation;
  • Scrotum: the left side typically hangs lower than the right as descends first during birth. Both testicles are contracted in when cold and during sex for protection;
  • Perineum: between the scrotum and anus is filled with nerve ending and erectile tissue that swells with blood during arousal;
  • Anus:the entrance, like the perineum is full of sensitive nerve endings;
  • Prostate gland: a walnut sized gland below the urinary bladder that produces the white sticky fluid which forms most of the volume of semen. Also referred to as the male g spot can be stimulated through anal touch or massaging of the perineum;
  • Buttocks, gluteus and abdominal muscles: often tight with tension.


A combination of physiological and psychological factors results in the male compulsion to protect or guard the entire pelvic region. By opening up and engaging the entity of this pleasure zone you can enjoy a heightened “out of body” sexual and sensual experienced.


To learn all about what really turns men on keep reading Passionista – The empowered Women’s guide to Pleasuring a Man.

She Comes First book review

Tim's Book Review – She Comes First by Ian Kerner

She Comes First is a book every heterosexual adult male needs to read. Most women still have so much to learn of their anatomy so it's no surprise us blokes have no idea - or in Ian’s words we’re “ill-cliterate".


Backed by great science yet written in a clever, witty and easy-to-read way this is a cover-to-cover gem that you'll be wanting to hand on to every bloke you know and care for, including your son and even Dad if that’s not too weird.


Renowned sex therapist and author Ian Kerner spells out what on reflection seems so clear - oral sex isn't just foreplay but coreplay. It’s simply the best way to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again whilst also prolonging one's own ecstasy - leading to such better orgasms for you both.


Includes a step-by-step guide and diagrams to ensure your partner always comes first. Brilliant. My (and now my wife's!) favourite book of all time. Enough said.

Sex Positive

Everyone likes the sound of the words “sex positive”…but what do they actually mean?


In summary, sex positive is a non-judgmental movement that celebrates all consensual sexual activities learn the facts here now.


It’s about having a positive attitude about sex…seeing sex as healthy and enjoyable.


Sex positive people are comfortable with their own sexual identity and with the sexual behaviour of others. They see sexual pleasure and experimentation as good things in life and are comfortable discussing sex.


Learning more about safe sex and your body’s capabilities are all part of the sex positive movement. It is also sometimes linked to feminism because women are empowered and have the freedom to choose what’s best for them.


Whenever sex positive is discussed, words like uplifting, elevating, invigorating, inspiring, liberating are mentioned. So while there may be some conflicting opinions surrounding the subject, we like it and aim to create a sex positive culture at MOJOCO.





Female G Spot

Where Is My Special Spot? The Female G-spot

Do you like clitoral, female g-spot (vaginal) or both types of stimulation? First things first you need to know where these special spots are. View above diagram to help you begin your quest in discovering your body. Say hello to your vulva (yes, not vagina, that is just a section of it).

I want to make special note of the female g-spot. Not always easy to find but it's time to try. Relax, sit back, and get in there. Don't be ashamed. It's your body. Love all of it.

Getting connected to your vulva is part of the parcel of getting into your sexuality and in essence having better sex.